Men’s Health Week 2018: 11th-17th June

Men’s Health Week has just come to a close and I now want to spend a moment thinking about men’s mental health. Suicide is the biggest killer among men under 45, with 12 men a day in the UK killing themselves. Think of all the publicity violent crime garners and then hold this reality. If

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Find the hidden ‘Don’ts’ you might live by

  In their work as therapists in the 1970’s, Bob and Mary Goulding noticed a pattern of twelve hidden ‘Don’t’s’ that people seemed to be following, that limit their experience of themselves in the world. The Gouldings called these twelve hidden ‘Don’ts’ ‘Injunctions’ [Gouldings, 1976]. They’re decisions made by us as children from messages we

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Help – I cut and pasted my Parents into me!

We’ve all had that moment of ‘I sound just like my mum/ dad’. It’s that moment when we sound like we’ve got an internal copy of them stored inside us. In a way we have. It’s like we have cut and pasted our own versions of our parents into us. Welcome to your Parent Ego

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Don’t just ‘Keep Calm and Carry On’.

‘Keep Calm and Carry On’ is all around us, on T-shirts, mugs, and posters.  There are even variations like ‘Keep Calm and Eat Cake’. ‘Keep Calm and Carry On’ seems of huge appeal to our popular culture.  There’s that ‘chin up, I’ll put the kettle on’ defiance and practical resilience and the idea that we’re

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